表白的话语经典句子

2024-08-14

表白的话语经典句子（通用6篇）

表白的话语经典句子篇1

1) 你我相见是一种缘份，我们彼此珍惜着这份来之不易的感情，希望在以后的路上能陪伴着你一生一世。

2) 回想起我们在一起的日子，我就忍不住一阵阵的心痛不是曾经说好了不要分开的吗?你怎么忍心就这样丢下我一个!?

3) 牵你的手，朝朝暮暮，牵你的手，等待明天，牵你的手，走过今生，牵你的手，生生世世。

4) 很想把你从我的记忆中抹去，却总是身不由己地想起你：在梦中的每时每刻，在醒时的分分秒秒。

5) 如果把我内心的愧疚真说出来，怕你觉得我没出息，可是不说出来，自己又觉得自己没出息。

6) 爱让我们相见，爱让我们相恋，爱让我们相爱，爱让我们牵挂，让我在有生之年把我全部的爱都送给你。

7) 有些人用嘴巴去爱，而我是用心去爱，也许我会失去很多，但我不会后悔。

8) 天气预报：今夜到明天上午有点想你，预计下午转为持续想你，受此低情绪影响，傍晚将转为大到暴想，心情降低五度，预计此类天气将持续到见你为止。

9) 有的时候，爱是不用太多言语的，只是想默默的注视着你，在乎和你在一起的每一秒钟。

10)你像一片轻柔的云在我眼前飘来飘去，你清丽秀雅的脸上荡漾着春天般美丽的笑容。在你那双又大又亮的眼睛里，你是一尊象牙雕刻的女神，大方、端庄、温柔、娴静，无一不使男人深深崇拜。

表白的话语经典句子篇2

关键词：《红楼梦》,话语建构,文本,话语实践,社会实践

1 Introduction

It has been more than 200 years since A Dream of Red Mansions was born.Now, people both at home and abroad hail it as one of the greatest literary works in the history of Chinese literature and its important role in literature and even in other disciplines is widely acknowledged.People are so enthusiastic about the studies of A Dream of Red Mansions that a new subject emerged at the early days of Guang Xv’s period of Qing dynasty, which is called nowadays“Red-ology”.However, when the work was firstly born, it received serious criticism and even was forbidden from publication and reading by the government then.The criticism was mainly from the feudal ruling class and some scholars maintaining the traditional feudal orders stubbornly, who attacked A Dream of Red Mansions as curiosa and attached immoral values to it.In spite of the banishment of the government, the book found its popularity among ordinary mass people and they read and handed it down under the table, running the risk of being punished by the ruling class.It is said that a young lady of that time was so addicted to the book that she lost her life because of it.The tale goes like this:the young lady got the book from her elder brother and was deeply moved, losing her appetite for food and desire of sleeping.Realizing this, her parents took the book away and threw it into fire.The young lady was so heart-broken and depressed that she got sick and finally lost her life[1].This is a tragedy, which is hard to confirm, and yet it shows, in a sense, how popular A Dream of Red Mansions was among common people at that time, though they may not understand the true meanings and significance of it and may just be attracted by the love tragedy between Pao-yu and Tai-yu.Despite all this, the dominant upper classes at that time didn’t give their favor to the book.Things are different now.The book gains its reputation as one of the greatest literary works in Chinese literature and even in the world literature, and many scholars devote all their life to the studies of it.What is it that makes the dominant power changed their attitudes towards the book?How the classical position of A Dream of Red Mansions is constructed in the course of history?This is what the essay aims at exploring.

With the popularity of the research into western literary theories, discourse analysis is attracting more and more academic attention of scholars both at home and abroad.And what is discourse?Discourse is a way for humans to express their ideas and thinking.Usually it is of a general and ambiguous quality.The famous French philosopher Michel Foucault, a pioneering figure of western post-modernism, focuses his attention on the fragments of history and culture, that is, the quality of discontinuity of history and culture.He tries to see more between the lines of those fragmentary records and build his own concept of“Archaeology of Knowledge”.He says in his book titled The Archaeology of Knowledge that“the use of concepts of discontinuity, rupture, threshold, limit, series, and transformation present all historical analysis not only with questions of procedure, but with theoretical problems”[2].In this way, Foucault gifts discourse a more general meaning, ranging from groups of statements as a whole to individual utterance.A Dream of Red Mansions is by any standard a kind of discourse, so do those critical essays and works about A Dream of Red Mansions in the course of recent history.In academic field both at home and abroad, the study of discourse is often associated with society, culture, cognition and so forth.Wolfgang Teubert, a professor of corpus linguistics at the University of Birmingham, in his book Meaning, Discourse and Society, investigates the construction of reality within discourse, putting discourse in social settings.Also, he mentions the cognitive turn in academic field and connects discourse with mind.Similarly, in Sociolinguistics and Social Theory, edited by Nikolas Coupland, Srikant Sarangi and Christopher N.Candlin, language and discourse are regarded as social practice and ideology is also a concept related to discourse analysis.Chinese scholar Chang Zonglin states in his work Comparative Studies in Language&Culture that language and culture interplay with each other, that is to say, “language study cannot be separated from culture studies and vice versa”[3].Especially, English linguist Norman Fairclough expresses in his famous book Discourse and Social Change that he aims at“bringing together linguistically-oriented discourse analysis and social and political thought relevant to discourse and language, in the form of a framework which will be suitable for use in social scientific research, and specifically in the study of social change”[4].He puts forward a three-dimensional framework of discourse analysis, that is, text, discursive practice and social practice, relating discursive change with that in the fields of society and culture.Besides academic books, there are many papers dealing with the relationship between discourse and sociology or discourse and culture.

A Dream of Red Mansions, since born in the later period of China’s Qing dynasty, has been thrown into the big melting pot of society and culture, exposed to the public’s criticism and whose position in literature is thus built in this process.Regarded as a kind of discourse, it, of course, can be interpreted from the perspectives of ideology, sociology, culture and so on.The process of its discursive change explains how it shifts from a so-called curiosa criticized by authorities to the top rank of the pyramid of literature.This essay will employ the three-dimensional framework of discourse analysis put forward by Norman Fairclough to interpret the discursive change of A Dream of Red Mansions.Actually, apart from ideology, society and culture, influence may also happen among discourses themselves, that is to say, a dominant discourse can exert an impact on a disadvantaged discourse which becomes weaker and weaker and finally may be wiped out.These factors combine to make a discursive change possible.

2 The Discursive Change of A Dream of Red Mansions

As has been mentioned above, the journey of A Dream of Red Mansions’s gaining its world-famous reputation is full of ups and downs.Shortly after its birth, the dominant voice towards it is overwhelmed with sharp criticism and malicious curses.Nevertheless, in today’s world, it is safe to say that the book has won every reader’s heart and no one will cast cursing words to it.An increasing number of readers join in the group of studying Red-ology, which in turn expanding the scope of its influence.The following will focus on three factors related to the discursive change of A Dream of Red Mansions, resorting to the framework of Fairclough’s three dimensions.

2.1 Text:Encyclopedia+Mysteries

In terms of content, in the beginning, A Dream of Red Mansions was conceived as a kind of curiosa and accused of immorality.As is known, the main background setting of the book is Chia Mansion, further divided into Jung Mansion and Ning Mansion.The Chia Mansion belongs to the upper class of that time and can even be called a small kingdom.The story focuses mainly on the love between Pao-yu and Tai-yu as well as Pao-chai and some other beautiful girls, which is where the criticism towards it lies.Also, Pao-yu, as a central character in this book, is different from other people of his time both in mind and behaviors.He says that“Girls are made of water, men of mud and I feel clean and refreshed when I’m with girls but find men dirty and stinking”[5], which is seen as a subversion of the dominant attitude towards women at that time.What’s more, Pao-yu holds a natural hatred for imperial examination system of that time and loathes those people who urge him to walk into official career, which is also seen as a crime threatening their dominant position in society by the ruling class of that time.But, actually, A Dream of Red Mansions tells more than that.

2.1.1 An Encyclopedia of the Society of that Time

As a product of that time, the book is inevitably tinted with the color of that time.In fact, the book is so inclusive that it is called an encyclopedia of that society.It covers the people from all social strata, ranging from feudal aristocracy to the lower class people, though more ink is poured on the life of upper class.More importantly, A Dream of Red Mansions is a good window for us to peep into the folk culture of that time.For example, in the 13th chapter, Ko-ching’s mortuary cult is described in very detail, observing the ritual custom then.The book boasts a distinct Chinese feature because of the use of Beijing dialect and a large amount of Chinese ancient poetry, which provide a good source for scholars to research.Besides, almost all kinds of cultures and arts are mentioned in this book, such as the culture of food, of finery, of architecture, of medicine, of drama, of tea ceremony, of landscape garden and so on, making the life of those characters vividly presented before readers’eyes, gifting the book a strong color of realism, though it resorts to fantastic means sometimes.

2.1.2 Mysteries that are Open to Interpret

Another attractive point of this book is that it is permeated with mysteries, which mainly come from the blank space between the lines.It is generally known that the book was left unfinished by Cao Xueqin and the later 40 chapters were continued by Gao Er, whose writing skills are considered less exquisite than Cao Xueqin and who is condemned by some scholars for twisting Cao’s original meanings that are basically hidden behind the judging poems in the beginning.Therefore, many scholars devote themselves to the study of the fates of many main characters and making speculations as to the ending of the book, with some scholars even rewriting it, for example, Liu Xingwu.This is one mystery, which I call“the mystery of ending”.Another one is“the mystery of identity”, saying that many characters’identity is uncertain, with a wide room of making inferences.These mysteries exist, sometimes because of the use of a writing technique which purposely uses very precise words to express rich meanings and readers are asked to read between lines in order to take the hints, and sometimes because of the author’s modification to the plot in the process of writing.Anyway, it is because of these mysteries and uncertainty that A Dream of Red Mansions attracts the attention and interest of generations after generations.

2.1.3 How to Do Text Analysis

Western literary theories are disputable about how to do text analysis.New criticism stresses the importance of close reading and tries to integrate meaning and form together;Russian formalism pays more attention than new criticism to form and sees text as a special use of language;Marxism does not separate text from the society where it is generated and strives to find the interrelationship between text and society.It is in Marxism that Fairclough finds a common voice.Fairclough says in his Discourse and Social Change that“discourse analysis is in fact a multidisciplinary activity, and one can no more assume a detailed linguistic background from its practitioners than one can assume detailed backgrounds in sociology, psychology or politics”[4].That is to say, text analysis should be done from many perspectives, assuming a multidisciplinary eye.The all-embracing quality of A Dream of Red Mansions as a text makes it possible for scholars to interpret it in many ways, which, in a sense, accounts for why the book can keep refreshing all the time and does not fall into the obscurity of history.To sum up, the encyclopedic and mysterious features of A Dream of Red Mansions lead to the possibility of multi-interpretation and finally promote the book to the top rank of the pyramid of literature.

2.2 Discursive Practice:Author+Readers+Ideology

Another dimension of discourse analysis is, according to Fairclough, discursive practice, which means in his words“involves processes of text production, distribution and consumption, and the nature of these processes varies between different types of discourse according to social factors”[4].Text is not isolated.Before it is born, it is conceived in the mind of its author;after its birth, it will inevitably exercise an influence on the mind of its readers and in turn, the changes in readers’mind and ideology will certainly affect their evaluation and interpretation of the text.In Fairclough’s words, “Texts are consumed differently in different social contexts”[4].Different social contexts lead to the changes in people’s ideology.Therefore, the two subjective factors—author and readers—will influence the processes of production and consumption of a text with their ideology.If their ideology changes, the texts they produce will surely change accordingly.

2.2.1 A Theoretical Explanation of the Relation between Text and Ideology

Ideology is closely related to people’s psychology, mind or cognition.Text, as a product of ideology, can be regarded as a bridge between people’s inner mind and outside world, or a transition from inner activities to outside products, so the study of people’s inner mind is of great significance to text analysis.

A cognitive turn characterized the second half of the 20thcentury and scholars began to turn their attention to the research of people’s cognition in order to make sense of how meanings are produced.They wanted to set up models of language that can reflect what is known about the human mind, and further explain people’s behaviors under the influence of their mind and cognition.They held that language is the externalization of thought.Mc Ginn insists that“It is far more plausible to suppose that our language is caused by our thoughts—that we can only introduce words for which we already have concepts”, “Words express concepts;they don’t create them”[9].Meanwhile, in the field of psycholinguistics, scholars also hold that“thought provides the basis for speech comprehension, which in turn provides the basis for speech production”[10].That is to say, oral speech or written text is closely connected with its author’s mind or ideology and reflect his/her intention at that time.For example, when creating A Dream of Red Mansions, Cao Xueqin must have in his mind a purpose or be overwhelmed with a kind of feeling he wanted to impart to his readers.Similarly, readers of different social classes or different times may have different ideologies in their mind and therefore give various responses and interpretations to the book.What plays an important role in determining people’s ideologies is social status and social change.

2.2.2 An Illustration of the Cognitive Change to A Dream of Red Mansions

A Dream of Red Mansions, in its early stage, evoked different reactions among different social classes.Many people of lower strata liked it very much, even though they may not really grasp the underlying meaning behind the words and may only be moved by the pure love story between Pao-yu and Tai-yu.Another group of people who give their favor to the book are those men of letters, praising highly the refined poems in it and, to some extent, realizing the significance of its revolutionary and rebellious spirit.Nonetheless, these agreeable voices could not gain an upper hand in the struggle against the dominant authority of that time.The feudal ruling class was so sensitive to the climate of the society that they were quick to catch up what kind of influence this book would exert on the mass people.Also, they were quick in their action.Shortly after the book’s circulation among mass people, the government gave an order to ban the book from publication and circulation and people were not allowed to read and discuss it.The ruling class of that time had good reasons to do this, claiming that the book, which was called The Story of the Stone at first, was detrimental to public morality and should be burn as curiosa.The mass people, though like the book very much, dare not read it in broad daylight, on the one hand, because of the pressure and prohibition of the authority, and on the other hand, because of their inner acknowledgement of the heterodox position of the book, for most of them were deeply influenced by Chinese traditional Confucianism.

With the development of society and the transition of era, people’s ideology changed, so did the ideology of society as a whole.In the transition from feudalism to socialism, people sometimes jumped out of the fetters of ideology and observed it in an objective way.In this way, they found a new world in A Dream of Red Mansions.Formerly, the study of the book could be classified into two schools, the one was the group of criticizing (评点派) , and the other was the school of searching for hidden meanings (索隐派) , which either put emphasis on the comments of the plot or characters, or strive to find the hidden social realities the book was based on.The one who makes great contributions to the solid position of A Dream of Red Mansions in literature is Lu Xun (1881-1936) .Although he did not write some monograph discussing A Dream of Red Mansions exclusively, he did write it into his work A Brief History of Chinese Fiction, and put forward many brilliant ideas.He sees more than love stories in it and regards it as a realistic tragedy, meanwhile digging the social meaning and advanced ideas within it.According to Lu Xun, this novel breaks the traditional schema that good people are pure good while bad people are completely bad[8], and instead, all the characters in it are somewhat imperfect.Besides, he holds that the tragedy of these characters actually reveals the essence of feudal society and can be seen as an exposure of the cruelty of feudalism[8].Nowadays, it is generally admitted that Pao-yu is a new-age person conceived in the embryo of feudal society and A Dream of Red Mansions is an encyclopedic book that provides scholars with a window to peep into Chinese traditional culture and that can be related to many other disciplines which makes multi-interpretations become possible.In a word, the questions as to how this novel was produced and how it was consumed by readers are all connected with ideology, and the change of ideology leads to different understanding and interpretations towards the book, which contributes to the discursive change of A Dream of Red Mansions.

2.3 Social Practice:Society+Culture+Power

Discourse does not come into being from nowhere.In a sense, it is deeply rooted in the climate of society.In this connection, Fairclough thinks highly of Marxism, saying that Marxism“provides a rich framework for investigating discourse as a form of social practice”[4].“People are social beings”[9], and there is surely interpersonal bound between them, for“What makes up society is not the people themselves but their interactions”[9].Interactions include those within a community and those happening between a community and other communities, with the latter maybe exerting a more significant influence by changing people’s ideas, the culture of a society and the shifting of power relationship.

2.3.1 The Influence of Western Literary Theories on the Study of Red-ology

In the later period of Qing dynasty, China woke from the policy of seclusion and began to learn from western countries in order to strengthen itself.In this way, some western literary theories found their way to China and did feel an echo among Chinese scholars.Since after, some Chinese scholars employed western theories to interpret Chinese literary works and made great contributions to academic studies.

Wang Guowei (1877-1927) , born in the later period of Qing dynasty, is a very great scholar in literature, aesthetics, historiography, philosophy, Sinology and so on.After coming into contact with Schopenhauer’s philosophy, he spent more than two years studying it and finally applied it into the interpretations of A Dream of Red Mansions.According to him, A Dream of Red Mansions is a book recording the pains and tragedies in life, and is the first work so far in China which is permeated with a real sense of pessimism[1].Though Wang’s ideas are still remain to be discussed as to its correctness, he does play a pioneering role in introducing western literary theories into the interpretations of literary works in China.

After Wang Guowei, there were several other scholars turning their attention to western theories in their study of Red-ology, such as Wu Mi’s A New Comment on A Dream of Red Mansions (《红楼梦新谈》) and Pei Zhi’s A New Discussion of A Dream of Red Mansions (《红楼梦新评》) .These essays or monographs are the results of an exchange between Chinese and western ideas.

2.3.2 Red-ology as Political Weapons in the New Culture Movement

The interaction between China and western countries leads to the dialogue between Chinese and western cultures.In the period of the 19thcentury, a group of young men of letters and patriots in China launched the New Culture Movement, paying great effort to advocate the spirit of democracy and science, with the purpose of transforming China’s cultural and political system.This trend also extended its influence to the study of Red-ology.A Dream of Red Mansions was reinterpreted to work for the political purpose of patriotic intellectuals.

As has been mentioned above, in early days, the study of A Dream of Red Mansions mainly included two schools—the group of criticizing and the school of searching for hidden meanings, which are now collectively called“old Red-ology” (旧红学) .In 1921, Hu Shi (1891-1962) published a famous essay titled A Research on A Dream of Red Mansions (《红楼梦考证》) , marking the birth of new Red-ology (新红学) .Hu Shi’s study of Red-ology was of clear political intentions.At that time, he realized that the talking of“-ism”had a quite wide market among people while the need of actual action was largely ignored, so he put forward that“we should focus our attentions more on the actual problems instead of the empty talking of‘-ism’”, and he further suggested that we should“make suppositions boldly and draw confirmations carefully” (大胆地假设, 小心地求证) .His study of A Dream of Red Mansions was to impart the kind of scientific attitude and pragmatic spirit to the public.When it came to the age of Mao Zedong, Hu Shi’s philosophy of idealism and advocating of pragmatism were severely criticized and the new generation of proletarian revolutionists held that the research of Red-ology, like other academic fields, should also adopt the ideas and methods of Marxism to work for the career of proletariats[8].It is easy to draw from above that at the transitional period of ages, literary research is tinted with a strong color of politics and has already become a political weapon for revolutionists to fight for their power in society.

Fairclough says that“discursive practices are ideologically invested in so far as they incorporate significations which contribute to sustaining or restructuring power relations”“Relations of power may in principle be affected”[4].In a sense, this is to say, the encounter of different ideologies changes people’s way of thinking and may lead the mass people to take actions and finally lead to the shift of power relations.“What we feel, what we do and find we cannot do, will determine what we make of the utterances we hear from other members”[9].People’s understanding and interpretations for a text are somewhat related to their inner mind and purpose which are certainly, to some extent, molded by the climate of outside society.Therefore, in a way, the discursive change of a text happens along with the change of society and the shifting of power relationships.

3 The Influence Exerted by Strong Discourse on Weak Discourse

When doing discourse analysis, apart from diachronic factors, we should also take into account the interaction existing between different kinds of discourse.There is a world within discourse, where things interplay with each other and vicissitudes take place.From the perspective of influence, discourse can be categorized into the powerful one and the weak one.To some extent, whether a kind of discourse is powerful or weak, it mainly depends on the group of people who speak it.If a community is very powerful and influential, the voice they utter would somehow be paid more attention to and accordingly, would be more influential among different communities.This is the so-called powerful discourse.On the contrary, if some people are of marginalized position in society, the words they say may be also marginalized and even ignored by the mainstream society.This is the so-called weak or disadvantaged discourse.“Powerful communities in society can exert an influence on comparatively weaker communities by discourse.”[10]In other words, the powerful discourse would threaten and even erode the weak discourse.However, whether a kind of discourse is strong or weak, this is not a fixed thing.During a period, this kind of discourse is dominant;later, another kind of discourse may gain an upper hand, with the result of breaking the original balance within discourse and set up a new balance.This can be called the inner change of discourse.

In the early days after A Dream of Red Mansions’s publication, the opponent voice from feudal ruling class was the powerful discourse while the favor from mass people was somewhat marginalized.The government, guarding for the interests of upper ruling class, rejected the novel stubbornly in the name of morality and social civility.Under the pressure of so-called“orthodox”, those people who gave their vote to this novel did not dare to put it on the table, and had to copy and discuss it secretly.Yet, with the development of society and culture, people changed their ways of thinking and began to appreciate it in a quite new way.The laudatory words gradually prevail and become powerful discourse which silences the opponent voice.During the process of balance-breaking and balance-rebuilding between strong discourse and weak discourse, A Dream of Red Mansions walks from the periphery of literature to the very center of it, and embraces its classical position indisputably.

4 Conclusion

Discourse has its own journey of development, which is the so-called discursive change.In a general sense, two factors contribute to the change-external cause and internal cause.The former includes society, culture, ideology and so on, whose change leads to the transformation in people’s-or more specifically, readers’way of thinking, and makes readers adopt a new way to elucidate the discourse which thus is able to keep rejuvenated and diversified and acquires new meaning.As to the inner cause, it refers to the interplaying impact within discourse.Strong discourse gradually expands its domain and eats up that of weak discourse, finally gaining the very dominant position.In this way, the thing that the powerful discourse refers to would accordingly achieves a solid position in society.Of course, it is certainly impossible to separate external factors and internal factors from each other.Actually, they are complementary to each other, with the former being a stimulus to the latter and coming into effect through the latter.Fairclough put forward three dimensions of discourse analysis, which are text, discursive practice and social practice.The three dimensions reflect three points of view in discourse analysis-text, readers and society, through which external causes and internal causes interweave with each other.

The process of A Dream of Red Mansions’s achieving its classical position in literature is actually the process of its discursive change.As a kind of discourse, this novel itself is all-embracing and can be called an encyclopedia of that time, which makes it possible to do multi-interpretations.More importantly, it is caught in the wide net of society and culture as well as ideology, swaying along with the tide of society.When the affirmative voice towards A Dream of Red Mansions becomes strong and presides over readers and critics, the discursive construction of the novel is finally accomplished.

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表白的话语经典句子篇3

贾宝玉的表白只有三个字：“你放心！”这比西方的恋爱男女常说的“我爱你”，内涵要丰富得多也深刻得多。它包含着决心、誓言、宣示、信任、责任诸多内容。“我爱你”，是一方对另一方的情感趋向的单一表达；“你放心”，是对双方溶解在一起的爱的情感的概括。“我爱你”的情感分量比较轻泛，“你放心”的情感分量凝重而深挚。“我爱你”可能只是刹那间的情感流露，“你放心”则是海枯石烂不变心的情感誓言。

《红楼梦》第三十二回，史湘云跟随贾宝玉一起来到怡红院，她和袭人说了好多体己的话，包括宝钗和黛玉谁更好这样的敏感话题。恰好这时贾政要宝玉去会贾雨村，宝玉大不自在。湘云劝他“会会这些为官做宰的人”，引起宝玉的反感。袭人说：“云姑娘快别说这话，上回宝姑娘也说过一回，他也不管人脸上过的去过不去，咳的一声拿腿就走了。”并说：“幸而是宝姑娘，要是林姑娘，不知又闹到怎么样，哭的怎么样呢。”接着便大赞宝钗。

宝玉听不下去了，说道：“林妹妹不说这样混帐话，若说这话，我也和他生分了。”

谁知宝玉和湘云、袭人的上面谈话，林黛玉全都听见了。

书中说，林黛玉听了这话不觉又喜又惊，又悲又叹。所喜者，果然自己眼力不错，素日认他是个知己，果然是个知己。所惊者，他在人前一片私心称扬于我，其亲热厚密，竟不避嫌疑。所叹者，你既为我之知己，自然我亦可为你之知己矣；既你我为知己，则又何必有金玉之论哉；既有金玉之论，亦该你我有之，则又何必来一宝钗哉！所悲者，父母早逝，虽有铭心刻骨之言，无人为我主张。况近日每觉神思恍惚，病已渐成，医者更云气弱血亏，恐致劳怯之症。你我虽为知己，但恐自不能久待；你纵为我知己，奈我薄命何！想到此间，不禁滚下泪来。待进去相见，自觉无味，便一面拭泪，一面抽身回去了。

这说明宝玉已经得到黛玉的全部信任，知道自己遇到的是真知己。宝玉对她感情的坚定性已无可怀疑，剩下的是谁给他们做主的问题，以及自己的身体状况能否保障爱情的美满。

她为父母早逝而悲叹，为自己的身体不能久待而伤感。

当然，“金玉之论”仍然像幽灵一样吞噬着她的灵魂。她知道宝钗和自己比是过于强大了。宝钗什么都有，而自己除了有一知己，其他什么都没有。她只好让泪水陪伴自己。《枉凝眉》曲里说的：“想眼中能有多少泪珠兒，怎经得秋流到冬，春流到夏。”正是黛玉悲剧命运的写照。

男女之间的爱情，由相悦、相知到相爱，是极其复杂的心理体验过程。当事的一方总是要不停地追问：这是真的吗7难道我有这样幸运吗？爱情会是如此容易的到来吗？难道他不爱别人只是爱我吗？是不是我错会了他的用意？等等。而在中国传统社会，作这样发问的常常是女方。

当黛玉在意识到宝玉是自己的真知己的时候，就已经在作这样的发问了。但光是自己单方面的追问和确定，还不算数，还需要对方的表白、承诺和发誓。黛玉的经常誓言是，如果得不到爱情，还不如死了。宝玉的誓言是：“你死了，我作和尚。”爱情需要表白。知道了，意识到了，感受到了，还不行；还需要对方说出来，说明确，亲自告诉自己。这就是恋爱双方的“交心”。也就是说，男女相爱单是情感的交流还不够，还要有心的交换和呼唤。

当林黛玉听到宝、湘、袭的谈话，已经抽身回去的时候，宝玉正好出来，他看见前面慢慢走着的是林黛玉，而且象是正在哭着。他赶上来安慰“妹妹往哪里去？怎么又哭了？”黛玉回头见是宝玉，勉强笑道：“好好的，我何曾哭了。”

请注意，黛玉如果不是玩笑的时候，很少这样笑着和宝玉说话。她的“勉强笑道”，是因为心里保存着刚才得到的知己的暖意。宝玉禁不住抬手替黛玉拭泪，黛玉后退了一下，说：“你又要死了！作什么这么动手动脚的！”宝玉知道黛玉没有生他的气，便笑道：“说话忘了情，不觉的动了手，也就顾不得死活。”

黛玉下面该说什么话应对呢？不料她又说了要命的话。她说：“你死了倒不值什么，只是丢下了什么。金’，又是什么麒麟，可怎么样呢？”一下又说急了宝玉，赶上来问道：“你还说这话，到底是咒我还是气我呢？”黛玉见宝玉这样问她，方才想起了上次的事，后悔自己说造次了，于是笑道：“你别着急，我原说错了。这有什么的，筋都暴起来，急的一脸汗！”

通部《红楼梦》中，这是黛玉向宝玉第一次道歉。

虽然黛玉是笑着说的，但我们感到的是悲和哀，是阵阵的辛酸，为黛玉，也为宝黛的爱情。

而接下去的情节，就是《红楼梦》中有名的“诉肺腑”了。

且看书中是怎么个写法——

黛玉一面说，一面禁不住近前伸手替他拭面上的汗。宝玉瞅了半天，方说道“你放心”三个字。林黛玉听了，怔了半天，方说道：“我有什么不放心的？我不明白这话。你倒说说怎么放心不放心？”宝玉叹了一口气，问道：“你果不明白这话？难道我素日在你身上的心都有错了？连你的意思若体贴不着，就难怪你天天为我生气了。”林黛玉道：“果然我不明白放心不放心的话。”宝玉点头叹道：“好妹妹，你别哄我。果然不明白这话，不但我素日之意白用了，且连你素日待我之意也都辜负了。你皆因总是不放心的原故，才弄了一身病。但凡宽慰些，这病也不得一日重似一日。”林黛玉听了这话，如轰雷掣电，细细思之，竟比自己肺腑中掏出来的还觉恳切，竟有万句言语，满心要说，只是半个字也不能吐，却怔怔的望着他。此时宝玉心中也有万句言语，不知从那一句上说起，却也怔怔的望着黛玉。两个人怔了半天，林黛玉只咳了一声，两眼不觉滚下泪来，回身便要走。宝玉忙上前拉住，说道：“好妹妹，且略站住，我说一句话再走。”林黛玉一面拭泪，一面将手推开，说道：“有什么可说的。你的话我早知道了！”口里说着，却头也不回竟去了。

“惊心动魄”四个字也不足以形容这段文字的情感冲力。

贾宝玉和林黛玉的爱情，已经有了现代自由恋爱的意味，他们是在未经双方亲长同意和允许的情况下，自己本能地去追寻爱情，是不知不觉自然而然发生的爱情。但他们又是在中国传统社会形态框架内发生的爱情，是十八世纪中期亦即清朝中叶的世家大族里面的爱情，所以爱情表白的方式带有十足的中国文化的特点。

黛玉被宝玉的真诚表白深深震撼，书中用“轰雷掣电”给以形容，再恰当不过。黛玉虽有万句言语，却不能吐出半个字来，只剩下怔怔的望着宝玉。宝玉也是心有万千话语，不知从哪一句说起，也只是怔怔的望着黛玉。

两个人的心完全溶解在一起，语言已经失却固有的功用。

黛玉走了，宝玉还站在那里发呆，袭人来送扇子，他并未看出是谁，拉住就诉说：“好妹妹，我的这心事，从来也不敢说，今儿我大胆说出来，死也心甘！我为你也弄了一身的病在这里，又不敢告诉人，只好拖着。只等你的病好了，只怕我的病才得好呢。睡里梦里也忘不了你！”

这是无法抑止的自我诉说，是爱的无意识流露。他自己其实也不知在说什么，甚至说没说自己也不知道。待醒过来，发现面前站着的是袭人，才夺过扇子满面紫涨的跑开了。

这就是《红楼梦》的第三十二回，回目叫“诉肺腑心迷活宝玉”。它标志宝黛之间的爱情，由情感交流进入心灵交融的最高阶次，从今尔后两个人再不发生口角了，体谅和护惜代替了疑虑和探询，理解和相通成为构筑他们爱情诗意的新的桥梁。

2020可爱表白句子简短话语篇4

2. 炫起的舞蹈，燃起的火焰，起航的风帆。每一样事物都有自己的目的，我的责任是每天爱你，想你，关心你，陪伴你。我不会让你哭泣，而你只需享受每一天。

3. 遇见你是上帝给我的宠幸，也是我生命中最重要的一页。难得两个人的合拍互补，不禁激起我对永恒的渴望，今天是爱妻日，就让它鉴证我们美好的未来!

4. 夏天出多少汗，我对你就有多思念!夏天喝多少水，我对你就有多追随!夏天有多少蚊子，我对你就有多爱恋!如果你不信，数数身上的红包，个个都是我要送你的玫瑰正在绽放!

5. 真爱情同甘共苦，真情爱嘘寒问暖，爱真情全心全意，爱情真共同分享，情爱真难以忘怀，情真爱难舍难分。祝天下有情人幸福快乐，事事顺心，笑口常开，执子之手，与子谐老。

6. 春深山茶花正艳，浓浓相思写满山，碧水潺潺绕身畔，柔柔深情满蓝天，笑靥如花荡秋千，甜蜜绽放在心田，此生与你常相伴，爱意无限一辈子!

7. 细雨蒙蒙江雾昏，深深祝福在我心，短信条条诉问候，思念之情放心间，天气多变要保暖，身体健康是关键，快乐心境当为先，幸福生活比蜜甜!

8. 遇见了，不能不让我相信这是上天注定。梦见了，不能不让我相信爱过知情重。无力抗拒，我不求天长地久的美丽，但求生生世世的轮回里有你有我。

9. 冬天，送你夏威夷的阳光;夏天，送你哈尔滨的清凉;春天，与你一起泛舟西湖;秋天，和你同看香山变黄。愿将真情送你心房，让你四季幸福无双!

10. 生命只有一次，爱却相伴一生;遇到你，是我的福分;结识你，是我的缘分;爱上你，是我追求不变的永恒;亲爱的，嫁给我吧?让我成为你的仆人，照顾你一生!

11. 天空迷恋着大地，想念的时候，便流下泪水;花儿爱上大树，想念的时候，便疯狂地往上缠。你还在等待什么呢?真爱不经意地从身边走过，还不抓住好好地爱一回。

12. 不经意间，春天剥开了冬天的慵懒，飞舞在世界的极限，收藏了你的笑脸，珍藏了你的温暖，不经意间，爱上了你的身影，辗转在我梦的里面，浇灌了时间，清除了杂念。

13. 你的幸福是我今生最大的追求，你的微笑是我今生最大的满足，你的满意是我今生最大的收获，亲爱的，嫁给我好吗，因为娶到你是我今生最大的福气。

14. 星星没有你的眼眸亮，引领希望的晨曦，装饰美丽的梦境;高山没有你的身影高耸，撑起平安的蓝天，生长四季的葱茏。亲爱的，爱你是我最大的荣幸。

15. 当女人完全不看账单，只留意男人付多少小费，她刚开始和这个男人交往;当她开始留意账单上的项目，并嘱咐男人不要付太多小费，她已爱上这个男人。

16. 如果我是狐狸你是猎人，你会追我吗?如果我是茶叶你是开水，你会泡我吗?如果我是汽车你是司机，你会驾我吗?如果你是钱我是存折，我一定会取你的。

17. 爱从来就会将人从颓废中拯救，用心爱幸福就永远都不会破碎，用真情给你甜蜜的绝对，就算浪漫的言语最终将词穷，我也会坚持给你最吹的感动!

求婚的表白经典句子篇5

2.想要好好爱一个人，真的很不容易;你我在一起的日子，常常让我回忆;生活中有爱恨悲喜、重逢与别离;总有万般不舍，我也只有忍痛离你而去。衷心地希望你万事顺意!

3.多想告诉你，我活着就是为了你，我的爱只为有你而存在!为了你，我不得不忍着与你分离的痛苦远走漂泊，希望你不要恨我，亲爱的，告诉你，那是为了我俩以后能好好的生活，才不得不去拼搏!你说饿了，我立刻就下厨;你说渴了，我赶紧就倒水;你说累了，我就给你按摩;你说烦了，我知趣的走开;而我生病了，你却沉默了!即使你不在乎我，可倔强的我还是相信爱情的!

4.距离不会产生美，有时会产生误会;时间不会证明一切，有的东西本来没有结果;等待从来都是赌博，谁能相信未来的承诺。从今以后，我再也不相信爱情了!

5.有人说，爱情地久天长，那是假的，只有传说才活那么久。有人说，爱要白头偕老，那是假的，只有老了才敢那么说。有人说，我爱你一辈子，那是假的，前半辈子你在哪里呀?我再也不相信爱情了!

6.爱情只是感觉，可是它惊动了我小小的心;爱情只是虚幻，可是它依然让我们魂绕梦牵;爱情只是回忆，可是它总是深深的刻在我的脑海里。我还是相信爱情的，毕竟它改变了我的生活。

7.爱情里难免唇齿相碰，情侣难免会有吵架的时候，我哭了因为我爱你，对不起这几个字不需要，因为我想像爱情，相信我们的爱情。

8.为了爱情，哭过，笑过;快乐过，伤心过;幸福过，堕落过;坚定过，彷徨过;因为爱情，甜蜜过，伤悲过;经历过了，也就沧桑了;但我坚定，属于自己的爱情总会到来，就像一定会到来的春天。

9.世界上有多少真情和假意，谁让你悲伤，谁又让你感动。总是悲伤于你的冷漠，而又感动于你的问候。你的一举一动都影响着我的情绪，这怎能让人不相信爱情的魅力。我还是相信爱情的。