分手的经典话语

2024-09-06

分手的经典话语（精选5篇）

分手的经典话语篇1

1、我想我给不了你想要的。

2、我们之间的爱情魔力已经不见了。

3、和你在一起，我不开心，不快乐，也不幸福。

4、彼此不合适，在一起也是勉强，希望你能找到更爱你的人，希望你更幸福！

5、原谅我曾经所做错的，真的很对不起让你难过。

6、结束以后，别告诉他[她]我恨你，爱情是两个人的事，错过了大家都有责任。

7、我们在一起不会幸福的！

8、和你在一起时放松又舒服，但我们之间就是不来电。

9、别把哀伤挂在嘴上，每个人都有自己的故事。活着不是为了怀念昨天，而是要等待希望，让大家都看到你的坚强，离开他[她]你也可以过得很好。

10、我现在真的很痛苦，我们本来应该是很有将来的，以前的我们不是很开心吗为什么会这样？但我们的距离越来越远，就只怪我们有缘无份吧！

11、我想我们应该当朋友就好了。

12、我不再爱你了。

13、为了你好，我不想因我的存在，影响你将来的幸福。

14、我曾经真的很喜欢你，只是现在感觉变了。

15、如果是我“对不起，我们分手吧。是我不能坚持这份爱了。请你理解。”

16、我们结束了，没机会可言，别浪费时间了，好了，我有事忙去了，不见。

17、我家里的狗不太喜欢你，你家里的猫不太喜欢我，所以不要再说什么，以后你慢慢就明白的。

18、别说太多了，因为只要分手，任何话都是借口。

19、请你离开我，你给不了我想要的幸福，跟你在一起我不快乐就这样，不见。我们结束了，没机会可言，别浪费时间了，好了，我有事忙去了，不见。

20、我想要的是一份平平淡淡的普通感情，张扬高调的情节不适合我。

21、说分手的时候不要吵闹，毕竟两个人在一起那么久，分手他[她]也会难过，只是他[她]比较明智，不想束缚你的或他[她]的明天。好聚好散，以后还是朋友，大家都有自己的无奈。

22、也许简单的话大家觉得不好，可是话越多越伤害对方。

23、一个人的世界总需要另一个人的陪衬，他[她]离开了，那是他[她]衬不起你，相信自己会有更好的明天。

24、其实我也希望能对你说出这句话，但无论如何我不能骗人。

25、我配不上你，不能给你想要的幸福，所以你找个比我更好的吧！

26、寂寞时可以找我，我会是你的忠实听众。

27、以后再见还是朋友，有什么困难找我，我会尽力帮忙的。

28、我在乎你，但我并不爱你。

29、我们只是暂时分开一下，好过互相折磨！

30、我们本应是很有将来的，以前的我们不是很开心的吗？为什么会这样？但我们的距离越来越远，就只怪我们有缘无份吧！

31、曾经以为，向你提出分手需要一生的勇气，但到今天，我不得不承认--要和你一起过下去所需的勇气其实更大。

32、别说你最爱的是谁，人生还很长，谁也无法预知明天。也许你的真爱还在下一秒等待你。

33、我家里的狗狗不喜欢你，你家里的猫猫也不喜欢我，所以不要再说什么，以后你慢慢就会明白的。

34、我很爱你，但有些不可告诉你的理由要离开你请原谅。

35、想他[她]的时候，就想想他[她]的好，他[她]的笑，记得曾经爱过一个人，别去管最后是谁开始了背叛，开心过就好。

36、也许下一个会更好，你难道不想试试吗？

37、对不起，我们分手吧。是我不能坚持这份爱了，请你理解。

38、和你分手，不需要甚么理由和借口，只是已经对你没有感觉了。

39、离开以后想到的，定是落寞的画面，请你忘记它。一个人总要有新的开始，别让过去把你栓在悲哀的殿堂。

40、一直很强迫自己爱你，可是，最后却发现时间不能帮我。

41、分手后不可以做朋友，因为彼此伤害过，不可以做敌人，因为彼此深爱过，所以我们变成了最熟悉的陌生人。

42、当爱情不在的时候，请对他[她]说声祝福，毕竟曾经爱过。

43、我们已经渐渐疏远了。

44、曾经以为，向你提出分手需要一生的勇气，但到今天，我不得不承认——要和你一起过下去所需要的勇气其实更大。

45、你对我太好了，但要我付出跟你同样多，我又做不到。你这样付出只令我有太大的压力，我很辛苦，放过我吧！

46、离开以后，大声的告诉他[她]我爱你，与你无关。爱是你的权利，把想说的都说出来，平静的回忆你们的过去，然后哭吧，哭完就把一切留在昨天，永远不要去触及。

47、过去就让它过去吧，那是属于我们的回忆，我们要各自向前看。

48、因为太爱你了，爱你爱得我不能呼吸。

49、不想再影响你的前途，你可以找到比我更好的人，我不想再欺骗你和自己，希望你原谅我吧，我会永远祝福你的。

50、不是我现在不爱你了，()而是我从来就没爱过你。

51、我要你过得更好，和我一起你过得并不好，分手后你要开开心心的。

52、我们做朋友吧，不要再做情人！

53、反正早晚都要分开，我们都不用勉强自己！

54、分手了就做回自己，一个人的世界同样有月升月落，也有美丽的瞬间，把他[她]归为记忆。

55、当我没跟你认识过吧！

56、请你离开我，你给不了我想要的幸福，跟你在一起我不快乐就这样，不见。

57、也许下一个会更好，你难道不想试试吗。

分手的经典话语篇2

关键词：《红楼梦》,话语建构,文本,话语实践,社会实践

1 Introduction

It has been more than 200 years since A Dream of Red Mansions was born.Now, people both at home and abroad hail it as one of the greatest literary works in the history of Chinese literature and its important role in literature and even in other disciplines is widely acknowledged.People are so enthusiastic about the studies of A Dream of Red Mansions that a new subject emerged at the early days of Guang Xv’s period of Qing dynasty, which is called nowadays“Red-ology”.However, when the work was firstly born, it received serious criticism and even was forbidden from publication and reading by the government then.The criticism was mainly from the feudal ruling class and some scholars maintaining the traditional feudal orders stubbornly, who attacked A Dream of Red Mansions as curiosa and attached immoral values to it.In spite of the banishment of the government, the book found its popularity among ordinary mass people and they read and handed it down under the table, running the risk of being punished by the ruling class.It is said that a young lady of that time was so addicted to the book that she lost her life because of it.The tale goes like this:the young lady got the book from her elder brother and was deeply moved, losing her appetite for food and desire of sleeping.Realizing this, her parents took the book away and threw it into fire.The young lady was so heart-broken and depressed that she got sick and finally lost her life[1].This is a tragedy, which is hard to confirm, and yet it shows, in a sense, how popular A Dream of Red Mansions was among common people at that time, though they may not understand the true meanings and significance of it and may just be attracted by the love tragedy between Pao-yu and Tai-yu.Despite all this, the dominant upper classes at that time didn’t give their favor to the book.Things are different now.The book gains its reputation as one of the greatest literary works in Chinese literature and even in the world literature, and many scholars devote all their life to the studies of it.What is it that makes the dominant power changed their attitudes towards the book?How the classical position of A Dream of Red Mansions is constructed in the course of history?This is what the essay aims at exploring.

With the popularity of the research into western literary theories, discourse analysis is attracting more and more academic attention of scholars both at home and abroad.And what is discourse?Discourse is a way for humans to express their ideas and thinking.Usually it is of a general and ambiguous quality.The famous French philosopher Michel Foucault, a pioneering figure of western post-modernism, focuses his attention on the fragments of history and culture, that is, the quality of discontinuity of history and culture.He tries to see more between the lines of those fragmentary records and build his own concept of“Archaeology of Knowledge”.He says in his book titled The Archaeology of Knowledge that“the use of concepts of discontinuity, rupture, threshold, limit, series, and transformation present all historical analysis not only with questions of procedure, but with theoretical problems”[2].In this way, Foucault gifts discourse a more general meaning, ranging from groups of statements as a whole to individual utterance.A Dream of Red Mansions is by any standard a kind of discourse, so do those critical essays and works about A Dream of Red Mansions in the course of recent history.In academic field both at home and abroad, the study of discourse is often associated with society, culture, cognition and so forth.Wolfgang Teubert, a professor of corpus linguistics at the University of Birmingham, in his book Meaning, Discourse and Society, investigates the construction of reality within discourse, putting discourse in social settings.Also, he mentions the cognitive turn in academic field and connects discourse with mind.Similarly, in Sociolinguistics and Social Theory, edited by Nikolas Coupland, Srikant Sarangi and Christopher N.Candlin, language and discourse are regarded as social practice and ideology is also a concept related to discourse analysis.Chinese scholar Chang Zonglin states in his work Comparative Studies in Language&Culture that language and culture interplay with each other, that is to say, “language study cannot be separated from culture studies and vice versa”[3].Especially, English linguist Norman Fairclough expresses in his famous book Discourse and Social Change that he aims at“bringing together linguistically-oriented discourse analysis and social and political thought relevant to discourse and language, in the form of a framework which will be suitable for use in social scientific research, and specifically in the study of social change”[4].He puts forward a three-dimensional framework of discourse analysis, that is, text, discursive practice and social practice, relating discursive change with that in the fields of society and culture.Besides academic books, there are many papers dealing with the relationship between discourse and sociology or discourse and culture.

A Dream of Red Mansions, since born in the later period of China’s Qing dynasty, has been thrown into the big melting pot of society and culture, exposed to the public’s criticism and whose position in literature is thus built in this process.Regarded as a kind of discourse, it, of course, can be interpreted from the perspectives of ideology, sociology, culture and so on.The process of its discursive change explains how it shifts from a so-called curiosa criticized by authorities to the top rank of the pyramid of literature.This essay will employ the three-dimensional framework of discourse analysis put forward by Norman Fairclough to interpret the discursive change of A Dream of Red Mansions.Actually, apart from ideology, society and culture, influence may also happen among discourses themselves, that is to say, a dominant discourse can exert an impact on a disadvantaged discourse which becomes weaker and weaker and finally may be wiped out.These factors combine to make a discursive change possible.

2 The Discursive Change of A Dream of Red Mansions

As has been mentioned above, the journey of A Dream of Red Mansions’s gaining its world-famous reputation is full of ups and downs.Shortly after its birth, the dominant voice towards it is overwhelmed with sharp criticism and malicious curses.Nevertheless, in today’s world, it is safe to say that the book has won every reader’s heart and no one will cast cursing words to it.An increasing number of readers join in the group of studying Red-ology, which in turn expanding the scope of its influence.The following will focus on three factors related to the discursive change of A Dream of Red Mansions, resorting to the framework of Fairclough’s three dimensions.

2.1 Text:Encyclopedia+Mysteries

In terms of content, in the beginning, A Dream of Red Mansions was conceived as a kind of curiosa and accused of immorality.As is known, the main background setting of the book is Chia Mansion, further divided into Jung Mansion and Ning Mansion.The Chia Mansion belongs to the upper class of that time and can even be called a small kingdom.The story focuses mainly on the love between Pao-yu and Tai-yu as well as Pao-chai and some other beautiful girls, which is where the criticism towards it lies.Also, Pao-yu, as a central character in this book, is different from other people of his time both in mind and behaviors.He says that“Girls are made of water, men of mud and I feel clean and refreshed when I’m with girls but find men dirty and stinking”[5], which is seen as a subversion of the dominant attitude towards women at that time.What’s more, Pao-yu holds a natural hatred for imperial examination system of that time and loathes those people who urge him to walk into official career, which is also seen as a crime threatening their dominant position in society by the ruling class of that time.But, actually, A Dream of Red Mansions tells more than that.

2.1.1 An Encyclopedia of the Society of that Time

As a product of that time, the book is inevitably tinted with the color of that time.In fact, the book is so inclusive that it is called an encyclopedia of that society.It covers the people from all social strata, ranging from feudal aristocracy to the lower class people, though more ink is poured on the life of upper class.More importantly, A Dream of Red Mansions is a good window for us to peep into the folk culture of that time.For example, in the 13th chapter, Ko-ching’s mortuary cult is described in very detail, observing the ritual custom then.The book boasts a distinct Chinese feature because of the use of Beijing dialect and a large amount of Chinese ancient poetry, which provide a good source for scholars to research.Besides, almost all kinds of cultures and arts are mentioned in this book, such as the culture of food, of finery, of architecture, of medicine, of drama, of tea ceremony, of landscape garden and so on, making the life of those characters vividly presented before readers’eyes, gifting the book a strong color of realism, though it resorts to fantastic means sometimes.

2.1.2 Mysteries that are Open to Interpret

Another attractive point of this book is that it is permeated with mysteries, which mainly come from the blank space between the lines.It is generally known that the book was left unfinished by Cao Xueqin and the later 40 chapters were continued by Gao Er, whose writing skills are considered less exquisite than Cao Xueqin and who is condemned by some scholars for twisting Cao’s original meanings that are basically hidden behind the judging poems in the beginning.Therefore, many scholars devote themselves to the study of the fates of many main characters and making speculations as to the ending of the book, with some scholars even rewriting it, for example, Liu Xingwu.This is one mystery, which I call“the mystery of ending”.Another one is“the mystery of identity”, saying that many characters’identity is uncertain, with a wide room of making inferences.These mysteries exist, sometimes because of the use of a writing technique which purposely uses very precise words to express rich meanings and readers are asked to read between lines in order to take the hints, and sometimes because of the author’s modification to the plot in the process of writing.Anyway, it is because of these mysteries and uncertainty that A Dream of Red Mansions attracts the attention and interest of generations after generations.

2.1.3 How to Do Text Analysis

Western literary theories are disputable about how to do text analysis.New criticism stresses the importance of close reading and tries to integrate meaning and form together;Russian formalism pays more attention than new criticism to form and sees text as a special use of language;Marxism does not separate text from the society where it is generated and strives to find the interrelationship between text and society.It is in Marxism that Fairclough finds a common voice.Fairclough says in his Discourse and Social Change that“discourse analysis is in fact a multidisciplinary activity, and one can no more assume a detailed linguistic background from its practitioners than one can assume detailed backgrounds in sociology, psychology or politics”[4].That is to say, text analysis should be done from many perspectives, assuming a multidisciplinary eye.The all-embracing quality of A Dream of Red Mansions as a text makes it possible for scholars to interpret it in many ways, which, in a sense, accounts for why the book can keep refreshing all the time and does not fall into the obscurity of history.To sum up, the encyclopedic and mysterious features of A Dream of Red Mansions lead to the possibility of multi-interpretation and finally promote the book to the top rank of the pyramid of literature.

2.2 Discursive Practice:Author+Readers+Ideology

Another dimension of discourse analysis is, according to Fairclough, discursive practice, which means in his words“involves processes of text production, distribution and consumption, and the nature of these processes varies between different types of discourse according to social factors”[4].Text is not isolated.Before it is born, it is conceived in the mind of its author;after its birth, it will inevitably exercise an influence on the mind of its readers and in turn, the changes in readers’mind and ideology will certainly affect their evaluation and interpretation of the text.In Fairclough’s words, “Texts are consumed differently in different social contexts”[4].Different social contexts lead to the changes in people’s ideology.Therefore, the two subjective factors—author and readers—will influence the processes of production and consumption of a text with their ideology.If their ideology changes, the texts they produce will surely change accordingly.

2.2.1 A Theoretical Explanation of the Relation between Text and Ideology

Ideology is closely related to people’s psychology, mind or cognition.Text, as a product of ideology, can be regarded as a bridge between people’s inner mind and outside world, or a transition from inner activities to outside products, so the study of people’s inner mind is of great significance to text analysis.

A cognitive turn characterized the second half of the 20thcentury and scholars began to turn their attention to the research of people’s cognition in order to make sense of how meanings are produced.They wanted to set up models of language that can reflect what is known about the human mind, and further explain people’s behaviors under the influence of their mind and cognition.They held that language is the externalization of thought.Mc Ginn insists that“It is far more plausible to suppose that our language is caused by our thoughts—that we can only introduce words for which we already have concepts”, “Words express concepts;they don’t create them”[9].Meanwhile, in the field of psycholinguistics, scholars also hold that“thought provides the basis for speech comprehension, which in turn provides the basis for speech production”[10].That is to say, oral speech or written text is closely connected with its author’s mind or ideology and reflect his/her intention at that time.For example, when creating A Dream of Red Mansions, Cao Xueqin must have in his mind a purpose or be overwhelmed with a kind of feeling he wanted to impart to his readers.Similarly, readers of different social classes or different times may have different ideologies in their mind and therefore give various responses and interpretations to the book.What plays an important role in determining people’s ideologies is social status and social change.

2.2.2 An Illustration of the Cognitive Change to A Dream of Red Mansions

A Dream of Red Mansions, in its early stage, evoked different reactions among different social classes.Many people of lower strata liked it very much, even though they may not really grasp the underlying meaning behind the words and may only be moved by the pure love story between Pao-yu and Tai-yu.Another group of people who give their favor to the book are those men of letters, praising highly the refined poems in it and, to some extent, realizing the significance of its revolutionary and rebellious spirit.Nonetheless, these agreeable voices could not gain an upper hand in the struggle against the dominant authority of that time.The feudal ruling class was so sensitive to the climate of the society that they were quick to catch up what kind of influence this book would exert on the mass people.Also, they were quick in their action.Shortly after the book’s circulation among mass people, the government gave an order to ban the book from publication and circulation and people were not allowed to read and discuss it.The ruling class of that time had good reasons to do this, claiming that the book, which was called The Story of the Stone at first, was detrimental to public morality and should be burn as curiosa.The mass people, though like the book very much, dare not read it in broad daylight, on the one hand, because of the pressure and prohibition of the authority, and on the other hand, because of their inner acknowledgement of the heterodox position of the book, for most of them were deeply influenced by Chinese traditional Confucianism.

With the development of society and the transition of era, people’s ideology changed, so did the ideology of society as a whole.In the transition from feudalism to socialism, people sometimes jumped out of the fetters of ideology and observed it in an objective way.In this way, they found a new world in A Dream of Red Mansions.Formerly, the study of the book could be classified into two schools, the one was the group of criticizing (评点派) , and the other was the school of searching for hidden meanings (索隐派) , which either put emphasis on the comments of the plot or characters, or strive to find the hidden social realities the book was based on.The one who makes great contributions to the solid position of A Dream of Red Mansions in literature is Lu Xun (1881-1936) .Although he did not write some monograph discussing A Dream of Red Mansions exclusively, he did write it into his work A Brief History of Chinese Fiction, and put forward many brilliant ideas.He sees more than love stories in it and regards it as a realistic tragedy, meanwhile digging the social meaning and advanced ideas within it.According to Lu Xun, this novel breaks the traditional schema that good people are pure good while bad people are completely bad[8], and instead, all the characters in it are somewhat imperfect.Besides, he holds that the tragedy of these characters actually reveals the essence of feudal society and can be seen as an exposure of the cruelty of feudalism[8].Nowadays, it is generally admitted that Pao-yu is a new-age person conceived in the embryo of feudal society and A Dream of Red Mansions is an encyclopedic book that provides scholars with a window to peep into Chinese traditional culture and that can be related to many other disciplines which makes multi-interpretations become possible.In a word, the questions as to how this novel was produced and how it was consumed by readers are all connected with ideology, and the change of ideology leads to different understanding and interpretations towards the book, which contributes to the discursive change of A Dream of Red Mansions.

2.3 Social Practice:Society+Culture+Power

Discourse does not come into being from nowhere.In a sense, it is deeply rooted in the climate of society.In this connection, Fairclough thinks highly of Marxism, saying that Marxism“provides a rich framework for investigating discourse as a form of social practice”[4].“People are social beings”[9], and there is surely interpersonal bound between them, for“What makes up society is not the people themselves but their interactions”[9].Interactions include those within a community and those happening between a community and other communities, with the latter maybe exerting a more significant influence by changing people’s ideas, the culture of a society and the shifting of power relationship.

2.3.1 The Influence of Western Literary Theories on the Study of Red-ology

In the later period of Qing dynasty, China woke from the policy of seclusion and began to learn from western countries in order to strengthen itself.In this way, some western literary theories found their way to China and did feel an echo among Chinese scholars.Since after, some Chinese scholars employed western theories to interpret Chinese literary works and made great contributions to academic studies.

Wang Guowei (1877-1927) , born in the later period of Qing dynasty, is a very great scholar in literature, aesthetics, historiography, philosophy, Sinology and so on.After coming into contact with Schopenhauer’s philosophy, he spent more than two years studying it and finally applied it into the interpretations of A Dream of Red Mansions.According to him, A Dream of Red Mansions is a book recording the pains and tragedies in life, and is the first work so far in China which is permeated with a real sense of pessimism[1].Though Wang’s ideas are still remain to be discussed as to its correctness, he does play a pioneering role in introducing western literary theories into the interpretations of literary works in China.

After Wang Guowei, there were several other scholars turning their attention to western theories in their study of Red-ology, such as Wu Mi’s A New Comment on A Dream of Red Mansions (《红楼梦新谈》) and Pei Zhi’s A New Discussion of A Dream of Red Mansions (《红楼梦新评》) .These essays or monographs are the results of an exchange between Chinese and western ideas.

2.3.2 Red-ology as Political Weapons in the New Culture Movement

The interaction between China and western countries leads to the dialogue between Chinese and western cultures.In the period of the 19thcentury, a group of young men of letters and patriots in China launched the New Culture Movement, paying great effort to advocate the spirit of democracy and science, with the purpose of transforming China’s cultural and political system.This trend also extended its influence to the study of Red-ology.A Dream of Red Mansions was reinterpreted to work for the political purpose of patriotic intellectuals.

As has been mentioned above, in early days, the study of A Dream of Red Mansions mainly included two schools—the group of criticizing and the school of searching for hidden meanings, which are now collectively called“old Red-ology” (旧红学) .In 1921, Hu Shi (1891-1962) published a famous essay titled A Research on A Dream of Red Mansions (《红楼梦考证》) , marking the birth of new Red-ology (新红学) .Hu Shi’s study of Red-ology was of clear political intentions.At that time, he realized that the talking of“-ism”had a quite wide market among people while the need of actual action was largely ignored, so he put forward that“we should focus our attentions more on the actual problems instead of the empty talking of‘-ism’”, and he further suggested that we should“make suppositions boldly and draw confirmations carefully” (大胆地假设, 小心地求证) .His study of A Dream of Red Mansions was to impart the kind of scientific attitude and pragmatic spirit to the public.When it came to the age of Mao Zedong, Hu Shi’s philosophy of idealism and advocating of pragmatism were severely criticized and the new generation of proletarian revolutionists held that the research of Red-ology, like other academic fields, should also adopt the ideas and methods of Marxism to work for the career of proletariats[8].It is easy to draw from above that at the transitional period of ages, literary research is tinted with a strong color of politics and has already become a political weapon for revolutionists to fight for their power in society.

Fairclough says that“discursive practices are ideologically invested in so far as they incorporate significations which contribute to sustaining or restructuring power relations”“Relations of power may in principle be affected”[4].In a sense, this is to say, the encounter of different ideologies changes people’s way of thinking and may lead the mass people to take actions and finally lead to the shift of power relations.“What we feel, what we do and find we cannot do, will determine what we make of the utterances we hear from other members”[9].People’s understanding and interpretations for a text are somewhat related to their inner mind and purpose which are certainly, to some extent, molded by the climate of outside society.Therefore, in a way, the discursive change of a text happens along with the change of society and the shifting of power relationships.

3 The Influence Exerted by Strong Discourse on Weak Discourse

When doing discourse analysis, apart from diachronic factors, we should also take into account the interaction existing between different kinds of discourse.There is a world within discourse, where things interplay with each other and vicissitudes take place.From the perspective of influence, discourse can be categorized into the powerful one and the weak one.To some extent, whether a kind of discourse is powerful or weak, it mainly depends on the group of people who speak it.If a community is very powerful and influential, the voice they utter would somehow be paid more attention to and accordingly, would be more influential among different communities.This is the so-called powerful discourse.On the contrary, if some people are of marginalized position in society, the words they say may be also marginalized and even ignored by the mainstream society.This is the so-called weak or disadvantaged discourse.“Powerful communities in society can exert an influence on comparatively weaker communities by discourse.”[10]In other words, the powerful discourse would threaten and even erode the weak discourse.However, whether a kind of discourse is strong or weak, this is not a fixed thing.During a period, this kind of discourse is dominant;later, another kind of discourse may gain an upper hand, with the result of breaking the original balance within discourse and set up a new balance.This can be called the inner change of discourse.

In the early days after A Dream of Red Mansions’s publication, the opponent voice from feudal ruling class was the powerful discourse while the favor from mass people was somewhat marginalized.The government, guarding for the interests of upper ruling class, rejected the novel stubbornly in the name of morality and social civility.Under the pressure of so-called“orthodox”, those people who gave their vote to this novel did not dare to put it on the table, and had to copy and discuss it secretly.Yet, with the development of society and culture, people changed their ways of thinking and began to appreciate it in a quite new way.The laudatory words gradually prevail and become powerful discourse which silences the opponent voice.During the process of balance-breaking and balance-rebuilding between strong discourse and weak discourse, A Dream of Red Mansions walks from the periphery of literature to the very center of it, and embraces its classical position indisputably.

4 Conclusion

Discourse has its own journey of development, which is the so-called discursive change.In a general sense, two factors contribute to the change-external cause and internal cause.The former includes society, culture, ideology and so on, whose change leads to the transformation in people’s-or more specifically, readers’way of thinking, and makes readers adopt a new way to elucidate the discourse which thus is able to keep rejuvenated and diversified and acquires new meaning.As to the inner cause, it refers to the interplaying impact within discourse.Strong discourse gradually expands its domain and eats up that of weak discourse, finally gaining the very dominant position.In this way, the thing that the powerful discourse refers to would accordingly achieves a solid position in society.Of course, it is certainly impossible to separate external factors and internal factors from each other.Actually, they are complementary to each other, with the former being a stimulus to the latter and coming into effect through the latter.Fairclough put forward three dimensions of discourse analysis, which are text, discursive practice and social practice.The three dimensions reflect three points of view in discourse analysis-text, readers and society, through which external causes and internal causes interweave with each other.

The process of A Dream of Red Mansions’s achieving its classical position in literature is actually the process of its discursive change.As a kind of discourse, this novel itself is all-embracing and can be called an encyclopedia of that time, which makes it possible to do multi-interpretations.More importantly, it is caught in the wide net of society and culture as well as ideology, swaying along with the tide of society.When the affirmative voice towards A Dream of Red Mansions becomes strong and presides over readers and critics, the discursive construction of the novel is finally accomplished.

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分手狠话语录经典句子篇3

二、你走了，送你一束鲜花，那花是我的微笑，那绿叶是我常青的思恋……

三、那些曾经以为念念不忘的事情就在我们念念不忘的过程里，被我们遗忘了。

四、我们一直是在离别中，比如和爱的人，和伤害，甚至和时光……

五、都说离别是为了下一次的重逢，可是当我们重逢时，我们还是我们吗?

六、那些以前说着永不分离的人，早已经散落在天涯了。

七、我一直都处在一个等待的角色，等待很美好，但也很痛苦，你明白吗?

八、来也匆匆，去也匆匆，离绪千种，期待着一次重逢。

九、落花殇，愁断肠，痴心化凄凉。离别曲，绝情唱，冰心尚未央。

十、人的一生在不断地相遇与离别，每一天与你擦肩的路人都是第一次相逢，也是相别，也许有一天会再度重逢，但没有谁可以认出谁的`背影。

十一、也许一个人最好的样子就是静一点，哪怕一个人生活，穿越一个又一个城市，走过一条又一条街道，仰望一片又一片天空，见证一场又一场离别，于是终于可以坦然的说，我终于不那么执着。

十二、最后的最后，我只能等待两年后离别的那一刻，只能接受你准备好的结局。我们有过爱情吗?我不知道。我爱你吗?我不敢承认。

十三、不要勉强自己，明天没什么特别!只是想你能完完全全陪我在你有时间我离开前。

十四、真的从你口中听到不再爱我，是如此地不知所措。你带走了我的一切，剩下的只是一个空空的壳和一颗破碎的心。

十五、因为人在恋爱的时候，大脑会产生赫尔蒙的这种物质，会使人有幸福感，快乐感。然而人在失恋的时候，大脑也会产生相同的物质，但是会使人产生失落感

十六、离别，能使浅薄的感情削弱，却使深挚的感情更加深厚，正如风能吹灭烛光，却会把火扇得更旺。

十七、宁愿笑着流泪也不哭着说后悔。

十八、当你孤独时，风儿就是我的歌声，愿它能使你得到片刻的安慰;当你骄傲时，雨点就是我的警钟，愿它能使你获得永恒的谦逊。

十九、你走的那天，我决定不掉泪，迎着风撑着眼帘用力不眨眼。

二十、我最最最亲爱的兔子，燕子，元帅，亚蕊，潘静。我好想紧紧的抱着你们，好舍不得，真的好舍不得。

二十一、不要说机遇素来没有涌现，它曾经呈现过，只是你舍不得放下自己领有的货色。

二十二、跋涉千里来向你道别在最初和最后的雪夜冰冷寂静的荒原上并肩走过的我们所有的话语都冻结在唇边一起抬头仰望你可曾看见：七夜的雪花盛放了又枯萎宛如短暂的相聚和永久的离别请原谅于此刻转身离去的我——为那荒芜的岁月为我的最终无法坚持为生命中最深的爱恋却终究抵不过时间。

二十三、别离的泪水，为记忆的长河增添新的浪花;别离的祝福，为再一次相聚拉开了序幕。

二十四、朋友，再会!朋友，珍重!流水匆匆，岁月匆匆，唯有支情永存心中。

二十五、不要轻易说爱，许下的承诺就是欠下的债!

二十六、色即是空，空即是色;心为佛堂，由缘，何计形骸放浪?快乐每一天，享受每一分自然

二十七、叶子的离去，是树的不挽留，仍是风的寻求。

二十八、朋友，你喜欢星空吗?如果有一天你在远方流浪时感到孤独、忧郁，请抬头看看星空，那儿有我送给你的幸运星。

二十九、原谅我好吗?我会用我的行动表现出来给你看的!这一生我爱定你，跟定你，不管我们往后的路再曲折，再大的**，再多的坎坷!我，依然会陪你走下去。我真的爱你!

三十、原谅我吧，知道吗，每天我都如同生活在暴风雨的袭击中。求你许我一个阳光灿烂天吧!

分手经典语录

1.两个人唯一一件最默契的事你不再联系他了她有不再联系你了就这样彼此陌生っ

2.我怕我来不及，我要抱着你，直到感觉你的皱纹有了岁月的痕迹。

3.流泪的下一秒，我已完全明了，你是别人，再无关我爱情的成分。

4.谈就谈一个能结婚的，玩来玩去多没意思，又浪费感情，又浪费精力。

5.在别人眼中，我开朗，乐天。但这都是为了掩盖内心的孤独，不被别人发现。

6.终于明白，当你做对的时候，没人会记得;当你做错的时候，连呼吸都是错的。

7.我只能像现在这样，不吵不闹，不悲不喜，安安静静的与你，再无交集。

8.我讨厌的是，你说你想我，但你却什么都不做。

9.没有人值得伱流泪，值得让伱这麽做的人不会让伱哭泣。

10.爱情，就是彼此永不止息的思念，是永远放不下的牵挂，是心甘情愿的.牵绊。不管相隔多远，无法抑制的仍然是对彼此的想念。原来，想念是糖，甜而忧伤。只怕爱的太早，不能和你终老。

11.地球不可能因为你的消失而陨落，可我的世界一定会因此崩塌。

12.有没有那么一种感觉：每个班级里，最开心，最快乐的，总是坐在最后面的那排同学。

13.有人寻找回忆，有人寻找爱情，有人寻找自己，有人寻找可以鱼与熊掌兼得的虚妄，只是在寻找的路途上不知不觉自己变了，变成了对方不爱的样子，所以对方才会离开。可心里是清楚的，不爱了，便可以找出千千万万个不爱的理由。

14.黑夜是倒立的白天，地球是停止的太阳，我是你最遥远的陌生人。

15.你辉煌的时候，身边都是朋友，你落魄的时候，身边连狗都没有。

16.这个世界上有很多事情，你以为明天一定可以继续做的;有很多人你以为一定可以再见到面的，于是，在你暂时放下手，或者暂时转过身的时候，你心中所有的，只是明日又重聚的希望，有时候甚至点这点希望也不会感觉到。

17.你离开的时候我哈哈大笑，这一笑，岁月和我都已苍老。

18.打心眼里重视朋友，哪怕不联系，不多言，其实也会很依赖，很在意。

19.朋友说：女人要对自己有信心，没有信心的女人，男人也不会喜欢。

20.以为你很重要，你走后这些事情便变得难以启齿。后来才发现我正把过去像喝白开水一样说给一个陌生人听。你还记得那年吗?你爱的多真多痛，你后悔吗?伤疤好了你还会记得当时的疼吗，你还会一如既往吗?

朋友圈说说分手文案短句

1、我没办法学会不爱你，所以，可不可以不分手?

2、习惯了没有你的日子，你就不要回来了。

3、或许相爱的两个人注定不能在一起，虽然不能陪你白首，但你的记忆里都是我最美好的样子。

4、执着的心，藏着深彻的眼泪，无奈的情，藏着缘，藏着起死回生的记忆，一份懂，一份伤害，唯一的真，唯一的情，眼里无奈，读懂都是放不下。

5、原来那只狐狸，一直没能等到它要等的那位姑娘。

6、即是说一千遍我爱你，但只要一句分手就可以结束。这就是爱情。

7、过去可能我也是你这样子时间真的可以改变一切要学会坚强。

8、春去秋来也，愁心似醉醺。

9、有力量相爱，也有力量放手，这样好，各生欢喜。

10、有一种感觉总在失眠时，才承认是“相思”;有一种缘分总在梦醒后，才相信是“永恒”;有一种目光总在分手时，才看见是“眷恋”;有一种心情总在离别后，才明白是“失落”。

11、彼此有相同的相同的话题

12、多少真，藏着情，多少缘，藏着人生的真谛，感悟一世的情怀，藏着最初的誓言，等一个对不起，想起一份当初，回首人生的坎坷，读懂一份爱情的美妙。

13、你是我猜不到的不知所措，我是你想不到的无关痛痒。

14、有时候为一个人倾尽一切，却比不过别人什么都不做。

15、要是哪一天我坚持不住了那我们只能说分手。

16、让心跳停了我们就在这里，分手本来就不会有结局。

17、所以只是爱过。

18、未来路漫漫，可是不会再有我和你的我们。

19、真心相爱的两个人分手了的说说因为在乎对方，因为心里一直念着对方，其实因为在乎很多时候一些处理会有些执拗，每当此时，无论对错，男生应该让步，如果真心喜欢，渐渐会熟悉对方的脾气，对方的品性，便会去改变，去适应，这就是爱情

20、我不太懂我们的关系有时候我们是朋友有时候会越过朋友的关系而有时候我对你来说只是一个路人甲。

21、而今识尽愁滋味，欲说还休。欲说还休。却道天凉好个秋。

22、我的手机会一直为你开着，如果你肯原谅我，随时可以联系我。

23、你笑一次，我就可以高兴好几天;可看你哭一次，我就难过了好几年。

24、说自己是现实主义者的人，往往是因为理想已经深化成现实一般的模样。

25、有缘千里来相会，无缘对面不相逢。

26、两个人在一起时，也想过白头偕老，可惜有缘均分，最终还是分开了，就算你再不舍，这已经成为了事实。

27、接纳自己，我们才能更好的接纳他人!严于律己，宽以待人!

28、人间的面见一面少一面

29、很想你，是那么的想念你，那是一种慢慢腐蚀到心底的疼痛，时刻提醒着我，心中有你存在过，一直存在在我的生命中，不曾消失。倾国倾城带走彼此容颜，不会淡忘内心感动。真的，想念你，原来在某一天也会变成我不想品尝，不愿体会的咖啡;原来，当记忆慢慢的剥落后，你的笑脸在时间的`寒风中飞出我的视线。

30、曾经沧海难为水，除却巫山不是云。

31、你走了，丢下那句话，在我这泓平静的心湖中，泛起缭乱的涟漪，神秘的梦境。

32、我的世界由我一个人就好，已经足够热闹。

33、成长是一段稚心的疼痛，不计后果的那段，叫做青春。

34、因为有风，柳条得以轻扬;因为有雨，禾苗得以滋长;因为有花，自然才显芬芳;因为有你，生活才显阳光。宝贝

35、我放下了尊严，放下了个性，放下了固执，都只是因为放不下你。

36、勇敢的写检讨认错，誓死绝不悔改。

37、喜欢看你的眼睛，里面有我的深情你的柔情，喜欢吻你的双唇，可以让我感受我的痴情你的热情，最爱你的双肩，让我可以享受你的温情体验真情。

38、早上好!周一总是难以与床说分手，你也是这样么…有童鞋说，周末应该放3天，新一月早。

39、真正坚持在一起两年的情人，彼此都有了真爱，谁都放不下谁了。再加之，在一起两年都没有被曝光，那“地下工作”经验已经相当丰富了，很难得被曝光了。

40、尘封了半生的笔，终因你而提起，从此便离别了写心境的日子，转而写诗歌。

41、我一直都处在一个等待的角色，等待很美好，但也很痛苦，你明白吗?

42、此时，我的爱情有如落花流水春去也，我只想一个人静静呆着。我说，爱情是件奢侈品，不爱爱情的人，不要轻易消受它，否则，它带给你太多的伤痕，会让你一生不得安宁。

43、但我怎么告诉他们呢，17岁的时候，我上了一堂“人生情感”的课程，发现大多数人不相爱的原因和当初坠入爱河的原因竟然完全相同。

44、别g让&幸s福i来d了z又z走$

45、时间会慢慢沉淀，有些人会在你心底慢慢模糊。学会放手，你的幸福需要自己的成全。

46、你看日子山高水长可谁和谁有来日方长、

47、别跟我说，七夕快乐!我不过七夕，从来不过。我只会看着他们七夕秀过恩爱后，分手，坏笑~

48、即使远远地离开了你，我也不会和你分离，因为在我的心灵里，早已盛满了对你的回忆…那困倦温柔的嘴唇和眼睛，将会尽情地折磨我的记忆。

49、我发现了感情和承诺之间的区别。我从未主动靠近那些撩拨我心弦或让我劳神的人。我选择的都是那些承诺选择我的人，他们愿意认真去寻找一些哪怕在最不堪的日子里也能让人心生喜欢的东西。

50、分手过后还能做朋友只是不再相互问候。

51、心一直都在跳动，爱一直在心中，可悲伤成了一生要面对的痛。

52、林子大了什么鸟都有，失恋的理由有千种万种，不适合就快点分手，就当喝醉了一回酒，把心中的烦恼全部吐光，清清爽爽开始去奋斗。祝你早日寻到真爱!

53、我很自私，虽然分手了，也不想他再找女朋友!

54、唯有闲愁将不去，依旧住，伴人直到黄昏雨。

55、爱可以简简单单，但不能随随便便。我的微笑可以给任何人，但我的心只能给一个人。

56、因为爱过，所以才会对对方那么的疼惜，因为喜欢，所以才会去容忍对方做的一些事情，两个人喜欢过的彼此，所以才会对对方非常的了解，而这种原因其实就是因为爱。他们对彼此的心是非常了解的，而就是因为了解，所以才会相互的吸引，而之后才会相互的付出，但是却因为一些事情而让两个人就此而分开，但是突然的分离能让积淀了这么久的感情就消逝?这自然是不能的，因为那是曾经的点滴，是要通过时间来消磨的。

57、流年乱了人生，我慢了身影，等一个早已不知去向的人。

58、你走来的时候，我的期待在远方;你离去的时候，你就是我梦绕魂牵的期待。

59、为什么你会认为她会伤心呢!你们的分手或许对每一个人都是解脱!

60、你丢弃了我们的所有成了我命中的过客。

61、一曲伤感情歌《相爱的人不要随便说分手》，他会让爱你的人更难受一曲伤感情歌《相爱的人不要随便说分手》，他会让爱你的人更难受一曲伤感情歌《相爱的人不要随便说分手》，他会让爱你的人更难受一曲伤感情歌《相爱的人不要随便说分手》，他会让爱你的人更难受一曲伤感情歌《相爱的人不要随便说分手》，他会让爱你的人更难受

62、我总会想你，睡觉的时候也没停止过。

63、既然分手为什么我还放不下呢。

64、你不找我，我不找你，或许就这样变得陌生了。

65、抬盏咽泪装欢，雪染江山碾心寒。

66、凶残的人也有善良的心，不顾一切的玩命。

67、微风带走的，是不堪回首的昨天，岁月带不走的，却是长久的依恋。

68、面对你默默的等待，我无法喊出那圣洁的爱，只好立于相思树下，用岁月的剪刀，把思念精心地剪裁、只能给你无限的祝福!

69、谢谢你把说分手的机会留给了我，说的好像我真的有选择权一样。

70、既然给不了我未来，分手之后别在一直回头求我。

71、有多少人以友谊的名义，爱着一个人，认为拥有，就是失去的开始。

72、我很好，眼泪没掉，心还在跳，面带微笑。

73、祝你幸福祝我快乐江湖不见

74、在分手的世界里不止是要你最好别想我的分离，也需要我最好别想你，那样不会那么痛。

75、两个人之间最远的距离不是我在你面前你却不知道我爱你，而是明明很相爱，却怎样也不能在一起。

76、给不了你要的幸福，所以选择退出。

77、有一种爱情，会让人爱到失去自我。有时候，分手不是因为不爱了，而是因为太爱了。

78、她笑着说分手，你哭着不离开，那我呢?

79、“你身体不舒服么?要不要我陪你?”啊。因为爱你。她总是故意暗示。往往和男人一样的独立。喜欢它的男士也不在少数。就算有的男人跟你说几句话。嘴巴很甜。体验车是台首发的时间限量版车型。再是缴费年限25年×2元。所以这种类型的女人也深得男人的喜爱。但是随着汽车行业的发展。而他的第一反应就是挡在这个女生的面前。很柔和但同时也没什么力道。对于一名上班族来说最怕的就是每天上下班。。病株的整体外观表现不同发生炭疽病的草莓苗株。三件加起来就是30%的掉___UFF。在我看来。中山将开启全面开挂模式!中山。主要包括三部分：1)违法行为轻微并及时纠正。